Month: December 2018

7 Traits You Must Insist on Having in a Kansas City Spouse

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Dating in Kansas City’s “anything goes” environment isn’t for the faint of heart. Aside from the fact that it isn’t easy to actually cross paths with someone who could be the love of your life given the pace at which we live our lives, meeting someone who shares your values, dreams and relationship goals can be a challenge.

Some may say that online dating services have opened up the possibilities for Kansas City singles by connecting them with others who would otherwise go unnoticed. That is true, but it has also created a dating scenario where immediate first impressions can either make or break one’s chances of finding a Midwest love match.

At Midwest Matchmaking, we also hear that the online experience is riddled with KC singles who are just looking for a quick hookup, rather than meaningful long-term relationships.

Those same superficial traits that might encourage someone to connect online (beauty, a skillfully enhanced profile or the pretense of wealth) may or may not be a reality. You owe it to yourself to make sure anyone with whom you enter into a relationship has some fundamental traits that point to their overall worthiness to enter your world and maybe even stay there.

Seven “Must Haves” Before You Say “I Do”

If your objective is to meet and a build lifelong relationship, there is a lot to be said for insisting on specific traits that are relationship “must-haves.” While certain characteristics can vary in level of importance from one KC single to another, here are a few that as professional dating service coaches have found to be essential to ensuring your long-term happiness in a relationship:

Commitment

A wandering eye is a deal-breaker. No one deserves to be married to a partner who can’t remain faithful. If a woman can’t keep her kimono closed or a man can’t keep his eyes in their sockets, don’t walk away. Run. The odds of changing someone with is tendency are slim to none. Some people simply have trouble committing to one person and if this is their pattern of behavior, don’t set yourself up for the heartache a philandering partner can bring.

Making and Keeping Promises

In other words, honesty and trustworthiness matter. Marry someone who follows through on what they say they are going to do. If they say they are going to pick up dinner and be home around 6:00 pm, you should be able to expect that they will be walking through that door when they say they will. If a spouse promises to take care of mailing the bills on time, you should know that you can count on them to do what they say they will do. Of course, no one is perfect, and there will be some situations where understanding and acceptance have to happen. It should be the exception, rather than the rule. Wild promises are worth nothing when they aren’t kept.

Willingness to Grow Together

A successful marriage is made of two Kansas City individuals who are willing to do the hard work to grow stronger together. Someone who will support you in your dreams and being mutually willing to support them in theirs is extremely important. This sometimes means taking a backseat to your spouse’s accomplishments, letting them shine while you remain in the background. They should be willing to do the same for you. If you are looking to marry someone who can’t compliment you and provide encouragement, long-term chances of success for your union aren’t good. And, don’t ever choose to make someone your spouse if they belittle or degrade you. Ever.

Hard Work and Discipline

There is a difference between being ambitious and driven to the extreme, and having a healthy appreciation for working hard and staying focused on mutual goals. Knowing you can rely on your KC spouse to help provide for your family either financially or by doing the work necessary to keep a household functioning is not negotiable. Trusting that your marriage and family is secure is necessary for any relationship to thrive. That doesn’t mean there won’t be lean times. It means you will both be working toward the goal you’ve outlined without one relying on the other to do all the heavy lifting.

Selfless

Entering into a marriage with someone who only focuses on their own needs simply doesn’t work. Look for a spouse that can see beyond the end of their own nose and seeks ways to make your life happier, easier and more complete. If you find yourself constantly doing only the things the other wants to do, spending money or time on only their hobbies and interests or disproportionately answering only to their whims, you deserve better.

A Servant Heart

An eagerness to help others in need is also an endearing trait to have in a spouse. The gratification that comes from giving back to the community, your neighbors and others in need is the sign of someone with a good heart. It is hard not to admire someone willing to take care of others when there is nothing they get back in return. It’s a good quality. Look for it.

Faith

It really doesn’t matter if that faith is placed in traditional religion or some other belief system. You want to be partners with someone who has a foundational faith that matches or complements your own. Whether you call this God, or a higher power, source, Universe, or Allah, those who believe in something greater than themselves is an important trait to consider. Doing the right thing, being open to learning and knowledge about the world and how it works, those are all things that people of faith share.

Never Settle for Less

Is one KC single going to exhibit each of these qualities all the time? Of course not. Whether you live and reside in Kansas City or Omaha, Nebraska, we are all humans with the foibles and fallacies that come with being human. Still, you don’t have to tether yourself to another person who doesn’t provide you with the respect, security, and commitment you deserve in a partner.

As professional dating matchmakers, we often work with Kansas City residents who have waited a lifetime to find the perfect person. Through introspection and awareness, you can decide which traits you are looking for in a KC single, which things are “must haves” and which are, at the very least, not deal-breakers.

It starts and ends with having a healthy respect for yourself first and making a promise to yourself never to settle for less than you deserve when it comes to dating.

Are You Looking for a Life Partner with the Traits You Need and Deserve?

Let our Kansas City Midwest Matchmaking coaches help you sort through the many variables that can present themselves in relationships. We are ready to help you locate that special someone in Kansas City with the traits you have been searching and waiting for. Call us today at (816) 410-1102.

Midwest Matchmaking’s December Bachelorettes of the Month

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Each month at Midwest Matchmaking, our local dating professionals and Des Moines matchmakers compile a list of a few of our clients who we specifically recruit for in order to help them find the loves of their lives. It’s yet another fun, rewarding aspect of our jobs as professional Cupids.

Below is a description of some of the most amazing female Midwest singles for all of you single men wanting to take home a catch this holiday season. If anyone you know are local dating professionals who are tired of being single and lonely, or using those waste of time dating apps, or even worse, waiting at a bar for Mr. or Mrs. Right to walk up and approach you, then maybe one of these Midwest Matchmaking members will be your future wife.

And now, our Des Moines matchmakers present our Featured Female Members for December. We hope you weren’t too naughty this year!

Sioux Falls Single Woman

Member P is a 31-year-old woman in Sioux Falls, South Dakota who has never been married. She is educated and has a career in public health. She has no children, wants children, and identifies as Christian. She is easy-going, bubbly, laid back, happy, family-oriented and finds joy in uplifting others. She enjoys the simple pleasures in life, and it’s probably attributed to the fact that she grew up on a farm and would love to live in the country again. She enjoys camping, spending time with friends and family, country music concerts, and animals.

She is looking for a gentleman 28-40 who is financially stable, responsible, 5’8 or taller, and is open to any location between Omaha and Sioux Falls. Her deal breakers include someone not responsible with money, dishonesty, smokers, and someone not tidy and clean. She is a great catch, beautiful, brunette and takes pride in her appearance.

Des Moines single Woman 

Member N is a 54-year-old divorced sales manager with two daughters, 26 and 27 who lives in Des Moines, Iowa. She is an outgoing, social and people-oriented person who dislikes any drama or negativity. She considers herself organized, adventurous, giving, creative, and personal. She lives a full life of biking, kayaking, hiking, traveling, painting, sculpting, drawing, cooking, live music, dancing, going on adventures, and having new life experiences. She loves the mountains and spending time with her big family.

What she is looking for in a partner would be someone 42-60 who is adventurous, loves to travel, is a good communicator who doesn’t dwell on negative past experiences. Someone who is financially responsible is a must, as she wants to enjoy the same lifestyle as her partner. She hopes to meet a man who is good-natured, not angered easily, and at the same life stage. She prefers a Christian man, and is open to dating outside of her race. Dealbreakers for her would include someone who is a homebody or someone super into the outdoors (avid hunters or fishers), slobs and smokers.

We hope our local dating professionals can help you find the next love of your life, and make this Holiday season an especially merry one!

If you or anyone you know meets these descriptions, please contact Midwest Matchmaking at (515) 414-3536 and meet your Des Moines matchmakers! We are confident we can help introduce you to the most qualified female Midwest singles this holiday season.

 

Midwest Matchmaking’s 7 Secrets of the Female Mind

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Here at Midwest Matchmaking, our seasoned Des Moines matchmakers know a thing or two about local singles, and are experts on coaching clients to be more successful on their dates. We’ve also been in the industry for a combined 40 years, so we have acquired plenty of juicy feedback from both men and women, young and old, and from all backgrounds and walks of life. 

There are always exceptions, of course, but overall, we have gathered plenty of feedback from enough women over the years to know what you men should be doing to get to future dates and land the one you’ve got your eye on. But, if there’s one thing we’ve seen across the board with our female members, it’s that certain traits men display (or lack) will make or break your dating success. But, we’re here to help you on that journey by giving you a peek into the mind of a woman, and what attracts us…and what turns us off. 

Below, are Midwest Matchmaking’s 7 secrets of the female mind:

1. Take pride in your appearance

Now generally, women can get past not being immediately attracted to a man IF the chemistry develops enough, and as long as their humor, confidence or success makes up for lacking in the looks department. But, what will not do you any good, is dressing like a slob or having zero style sense. This also goes deeper than attire. Make sure you take pride in your health and hygiene. Meaning, whitening those teeth, showering and smelling fresh (a little cologne never hurt anyone), keeping your nails trimmed and cleaned, and trimming up any scruff on your face or head. 

2. Display confidence

Nothing is more unattractive to our primitively-wired female brains than a man who displays a lack of confidence. What this tells us is that this kind of man isn’t strong or assertive enough to protect or provide for us. If this idea seems outdated, well…tough. Science still backs that both genders’ brains are still pretty much wired in the same way they were when we were living in caves, which means the survival mechanisms that were triggered in each of us in the Tertiary Period are still triggered in our modern lives. So, this means doing work on yourself all of the time, and strengthening those mental muscles and improve areas where you lack obvious confidence. That might mean working on jealousy issues, finding a career you take pride in, working on your posture, and learning how to approach women. 

3. Your career and financial stability matter.

Time and time again, the one thing Midwest Matchmaking hears from every woman (yes, every woman) is that they want someone who is at least a smidge more successful than they are, if not significantly more so. Again, this goes back to how our brains are wired, and even the most successful women still want to feel feminine and taken care of, even when they can (and do) take care of themselves. There’s nothing more appealing than a man who knows how to survive, and in this day in age, that means by making bills.

4. Older men are more appealing.

Unless the woman is in her mid-life crises, fresh out of a long marriage and just wanting to hook up with a hot boy toy, a serious-minded gal is typically going to want an older man. This is explained due to a man having enough time to mature at the woman’s level (since, sorry boys, women do mature more quickly), and, an older man has had enough time to gain career and financial stability. 

4. Nice guys do NOT finish last.

Studies show that women who are truly seeking a long term commitment prefer men who are altruistic and do good deeds over the smokin’ hot bad boy who plays games, tells her what she wants to hear, and strings her along. Des Moines matchmakers feel that a mature woman leaves the party boy in her past where he belongs, and knows a good, kind man when she sees one. And his actions should be pretty obvious as to which type he is. In short, be the good guy, and you’ll do a lot better.

5. Leave a little mystery.

Men who come on too strong in the beginning will do one of two things (or both): it will attract only emotionally needy women, or it will repel the decent ones who are secure in themselves. And attracting a woman who is secure with herself means being secure enough in yourself to not feel the need to overpromise, overcompensate and be overly touchy/feely so quickly. Wait until a proper foundation has been established before you say things you may not come to mean. This includes texting too much too soon! Midwest Matchmaking sees oversharing ruin a good thing between two people far too often. 

6. Have a sense of humor.

This is by far the number one trait that women find most appealing of all: someone who can make them laugh. Humor is not only good for the heart and soul, and allows us to live longer, but it’s also a sign of intelligence. And I’m talking about intelligent humor; not stupid, gory potty humor you use during a guys’ night. I mean witty, playful banter, using smart references and knowing how to make her laugh. 

Are you striking out on your dates with local singles in Des Moines, and may be interested in becoming a coaching client? 

If so, call Midwest Matchmaking at (515) 414-3536 or visit us at www.midwestmatchmaking.com and meet our Des Moines matchmakers. They will get you inside a woman’s mind and help you fall in love!

Midwest Matchmaking’s 7 Secrets of the Male Mind

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Here at Midwest Matchmaking, our seasoned Des Moines matchmakers know a thing or two about local singles, and coaching clients to be more successful on their dates. We’ve also been in the industry for a combined 40 years, so we have acquired plenty of juicy feedback from both men and women, young and old, and from all backgrounds and walks of life. 

Sure, everyone has their unique preferences, deal breakers, idiosyncratic quirks and baggage – these all come with the territory of dating and matching people successfully. But, if there’s one thing we’ve seen across the board with our male members, it’s that certain traits in a woman certainly help one’s chances over another’s when vying for the attention of the complicated, yet simple male species.

Below, are Midwest Matchmaking’s 7 secrets of the male mind:

1. Women’s attraction can develop over time with a man. Men’s cannot. 

Bad news, ladies: men can usually tell right away (in person) whether they “feel it” with you, or not. And there’s almost never changing their minds once they’ve decided either way. Now, photos can be deceiving, so I am talking about the in-person meeting between a man and a woman. If he attends a date and nothing about her stands out as appealing, it’s highly unlikely that will develop into much more than a physical encounter or a friendship. 

2. A nice body (including posture) is important.

Don’t shoot the messengers, but 99.99 percent of the men we work with, even if they’re carrying more weight in the middle, want someone with a slim to average body type. I know, it’s not fair, but the standard of beauty, at least in our culture is an almost unanimous, across the board, in favor of someone who appears to take care of herself. We find that most of the declines local single women receive are due to their weight or body shape. This attraction also includes…. 

3. Youth and sex appeal matter, regardless of your age.

It’s a common, biological, pre-wired preference for men to prefer a younger woman than himself. But, Des Moines matchmakers match couples all of the time who have age gaps where the woman is his senior. In most cases though, the woman takes immense pride in her appearance and looks more youthful than her age. This includes dressing nicely, age-appropriately, but not losing the sex appeal that naturally attract men. 

4. Men much prefer long, shiny, healthy hair. And…blondes may not have more fun after all.

Halle Berry aside, most women cannot pull of a short bob or pixie cut. Unkempt hair  that is overly processed and damaged is also not considered attractive to most men. Also, interestingly enough, brunettes tend to be more favorable to men over blondes, studies have shown.

5. Natural beauty is much preferred over a face full of makeup.

Local single men across the board tell us that there are fewer turn offs than a woman with a caked-on face of cosmetics. It actually makes a woman look much older than she is when she hides her natural beauty. Female coaching clients who come to us for help may hear this piece of advice from us, if they’re wondering how to be more attractive to men.

6. Pride in your appearance overall is a must!

This includes shaving/waxing, showering regularly, wearing a touch of perfume every so often, having straight, white, clean teeth and smiling often, dressing well, and caring about investing in yourself. In biological terms, basically, this means that you are healthy, strong and make for good breeding potential. 

7. Men are more drawn to a higher pitched voice.

This does not mean talking with the pitch of a 6 year-old or being obviously fake with your tone, but, according to science, high voices are perceived as youthful and feminine, and youth is biologically favorable for bearing healthy children.

Are you a local single woman in Des Moines and are at a dating dead end in figuring out what the heck men are thinking?

If so, give your Des Moines matchmakers and dating coaches a call and let us help you become the type of woman a man will notice! Call us at (515) 414-3536 or visit us at www.midwestmatchmaking.com.

Midwest Matchmaking’s December Bachelors of the Month

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Each month at Midwest Matchmaking, our local dating professionals and Des Moines matchmakers compile a list of a few of our clients who we specifically recruit for in order to help them find the loves of their lives. It’s yet another fun, rewarding aspect of our jobs as professional Cupids.

Below is a description of some of the most amazing male midwest singles for all of you single ladies wanting to take home a catch this holiday season. If you are  tired of being single and lonely, or using those waste of time dating apps, or even worse, waiting at a bar for Mr. or Mrs. Right to walk up and approach you, then maybe these Midwest Matchmaking members will be your future love.

And now, our Midwest matchmakers present our Featured Members for December.

We hope you were nice this year!

Member C is 39 years-old, lives in Ames, Iowa, has never married and works in a successful career in public relations.

He is friendly, very handsome, and slightly introverted. He lives on a beautiful, scenic acreage and absolutely loves animals. Some of his favorite pastimes are landscaping, hockey, traveling and trying new things, as he enjoys learning and growing. His ideal woman is 30-40, easy going, calm, responsible with money, and someone who can imagine an idyllic life in the country. Smoking, extreme religious views and atheists are his deal breakers, so, sorry ladies, if those describe you! He also appreciates when someone can relax, and doesn’t always need to be on the go. If you’re looking for a white collar man with the heart of a country boy, then this Des Moines single is your man.

Member K is a 57 year-old successful engineer in North Platte, who is divorced.

He is intelligent, tall, ruggedly handsome, and has a great sense of humor. His pastimes include watching sports, riding his Harley, and trying new things. He does not drink, but has no problems if a woman enjoys it socially. He has a dog at home, but is not a huge fan of cats – but for the right woman, he can get around that. His ideal woman is 48-58, Caucasian, honest, light-hearted, flexible, active and slender, and has an easy going temperament. Once he retires in a few years, he is open to relocating to Omaha or anywhere within the surrounding areas.

We hope our local dating professionals can help you find the next love of your life, and make this Christmas especially merry for you!

If you or anyone you know seems like they fall under this description, please contact Midwest Matchmaking at (515) 414-3536 and meet your Des Moines matchmakers! We are confident they will help introduce you to the most qualified Des Moines singles this holiday season.

Need Help Meeting Your Relationship Goals? Find a Kansas City Dating Service Coach

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Many Kansas City-area singles have migrated to online dating sites to meet their match, only to find out that navigating any dating scene can be a challenge. Knowing just what to say to a potential date, identifying the right time to respond or crafting just the right message to make sure you are connecting with the types of KC singles that fit your criteria isn’t easy. In fact, it can leave even the most confident person second-guessing their approach.

How can Kansas City single professionals find a soul mate, succeed in a new relationship or find out if the person they are dating is right for them? What about navigating the dating scene after the loss of a partner or a recent divorce? Hiring a KC dating coach can help by providing judgment-free, objective dating advice to guide you through the rough waters that can come with putting yourself out there, whether you are new to the dating scene or returning after some time away.

What is a Kansas City Dating Coach?

Dating service coaches are a lot like a therapist, although they don’t have to be licensed. Their job is to help talk you through the things that may be keeping you from finding or maintaining successful relationships.

If this sounds a little like your best buddy or relative who is more than ready to offer dating advice, there is almost no situation where someone close to you can fill this role successfully. There are some definite benefits and very significant reasons to find a Kansas City dating coach outside of your friend or family circle.

Unlike your family or friends, dating service coaches are objective and can quickly identify the behaviors or patterns that may be keeping you from finding the right partner located in KC. While a well-meaning family member may tell you what you want to hear, a professional dating service coach will tell you what you need to hear and understand.

It goes beyond having a stellar online profile or suddenly deciding you are going to return to the dating scene. Once you’ve made that profile live or choose to embark upon the KC singles scene, there are an infinite number of things that can come up and having a Midwest Matchmaking dating coach by your side is one way to receive the support, guidance and confidence you need to bring your best self to any date or social engagement.

Find a Dating Coach in Kansas City

Dating coaches aren’t a new concept, although Kansas City’s Midwest Matchmaking has evolved it’s coaching services over time to really hone in on the challenges that KC singles face today. While we can still assist with helping you create an online profile that enables you to stand out among the crowd, there is really a lot more than a professional dating service coach can do to help you align your relationship goals, and that is precisely what we strive to do for our members.

More specifically, Midwest Matchmaking’s professional dating coaches will guide you along a search of personal discovery, helping you to discover things about yourself you might not have considered before. Helping you to become ready for a relationship, encouraging you to overcome emotional baggage or trust issues, digging deep to uncover exactly what you value, challenging long-held beliefs that aren’t serving you well and helping you to assess and improve KC dating behaviors are all ways a dating coach can provide assistance.

What to Watch Out for When Selecting a Dating Coach

As with just about anything, those looking for a KC dating coach need to be careful before they select one and allow them access to their most personal thoughts and vulnerabilities. The fact that anyone can profess to be a dating service coach is the first thing to keep in mind.

Look for a coach with documented experience helping other Kansas City singles through first dates, to life-long relationships. Be careful about dating coaches that come with promises or guarantees. The fact is, there are no guaranteed programs to make you more attractive or interesting to others. However, there are ways to help singles better understand themselves, become more confident, learn dating etiquette and bring their best possible selves to any situation.

Advice from the Experienced Dating Coaches at Midwest Matchmaking

If you still aren’t quite ready to go down the path of hiring a dating coach, there are some pretty universal dating tips that Midwest Matchmaking has found to be helpful as you approach or return to the KC dating scene. If you’d like to try these first, here are a few of those things you may wish to consider:

  • If you are writing an online profile, be very clear about what you are looking for. Your statement should specifically say what type of relationship you are seeking. Don’t profess any thoughts or wishes that do not line up exactly with the type of life you want just to impress or “reel in” prospects.
  • Approach KC dating casually at first. Do not dive into a physical relationship right away to avoid becoming attached to someone else before you have a chance to really know if they are the right match for you.
  • Be willing to engage in conversation with strangers. This is no time to be introverted and closed off.
  • If you want to ask someone out, be specific and up front. Don’t ask them if they’d like to hang out sometime. Have particular plans in mind and speak up.
  • Don’t let rejection keep you from trying again with someone else. There are a lot of reasons why someone might decline an invitation. You don’t know if you don’t put yourself out there and try.

When You are Ready to Find Help to “Up Your Dating Game” Call Midwest Matchmakers

It is human nature to try to solve issues on your own. If that isn’t working for you when it comes to meeting your relationship goals, Midwest Matchmaking is here to help. Kansas City singles can gain the kind of confidence that comes from real, objective and one-on-one guidance while becoming more self-aware and attractive to others.

Don’t accept dating advice from anyone who isn’t willing to do the hard work with you to bring your unique qualities and personal KC relationship goals to the forefront. For most of us, this doesn’t happen on our own and asking for help from a dating coach is the next logical step. In Kansas City, call Midwest Matchmakers at (816) 410-1102. Our dating service coaches are ready to help you find the life you’ve been dreaming about.

Midwest Matchmaking’s 5 Best Dating Attire for Men

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Midwest Matchmaking talks constantly about how important first impressions are, and that starts with how you show up to the date, and what you wear. In a competitive Des Moines dating environment, it’s important to package yourself in a manner that helps you stand out among your competition, and by paying attention to yourself, that will help you go further in finding a local love connection.

Finding the right outfit for a date can be tricky if this is not an area that you’re normally conscious of. Style is a learned trait, but so are many things in life! So, if you want to grow in your own personal development, taking care of your appearance is the first step. Let’s be honest: if you show up sloppy, unhygienic or like you made minimal effort to look good for her, a local love connection is unlikely to occur.

Now, you don’t want to overdress and look too fancy, but you also want to put in effort.

Des Moines dating professionals advise you gentlemen to take the following style advice:

1.  First off, make sure you’re clean-shaven.

Or, at minimum, have no more than a few days of “scruff”. Beards are not typically favored by the ladies, but if you do wear one, keep it trimmed and managed. Nothing is more of a turn off than a wild, unkempt, scraggly, long beard that hides your most important features. Same goes for your hair. Get it trimmed and styled before you meet her. Make sure you’re showered, and spritz on some cologne or body spray. Women will notice, and they all love a nice-smelling man. Lastly, make sure your breath is fresh, and pop a mint just before walking in to meet her.

2. Dress for the occasion.

If you’re meeting your Des Moines date at a bar or casual restaurant, make sure to take off your hat or sunglasses. Wear slim, nicely-fitted dark or gray jeans – nothing too baggy that doesn’t flatter your body, and especially, nothing ripped, wrinkled or dirty. Now, if you’re attending a symphony or something more fancy, definitely make sure you wear nice slacks in a neutral color (black, gray, navy blue or beige).

3.  Don’t wear sneakers or running shoes on your date.

Wear a nice pair of loafers, chukka boots or even a timeless pair of Converse. As long as they’re clean, your local love connection is on the right track!

4. Midwest Matchmaking advises opting for a fitted, wrinkle-free collard shirt or button-down.

For the top half of your outfit to avoid sports jerseys, logo Ts, work shirts, or any unfitted, baggy, wrinkled, stained or oversized shirts. Solid colors are a good bet instead of crazy patterns. A stylish flannel is appropriate also, but jazz it up with a nice blazer. Colors that attract women are blues, greens or even red. Darker colors are the most flattering on all skin tones, rather than pastels or neons.

5. Finally, men, remember that women like to feel special.

Women spend a lot of time getting ready for their Des Moines dating dinner or drinks, so make sure you show her that you took the time to wow her as well.

Do your love connections need as much of an update as your wardrobe?

If so, call our Midwest Matchmaking team at (515) 414-3536 today!

Midwest Matchmaking’s 5 Best Dating Tips for Women

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Midwest Matchmaking talks about how important first impressions are, and that starts with how you show up to the date, and what you wear. Des Moines matchmakers know it’s important to package yourself in a manner that helps you stand out among your competition, and by paying attention to yourself, that will help you go further in finding Des Moines singles.

What you choose to wear says a lot about your personality, so remember to wear something that you love and feel confident in! A great rule of thumb to remember is that it is always better to be over-dressed than under-dressed.

The following 5 tips are what Midwest Matchmaking and our Des Moines matchmakers suggest for wowing your date.

First, make sure you are showered, changed out of your work clothes and mentally prepared and ready for your date. Meeting a new person is stressful, challenging and taxing, but try to breathe and relax. By feeling your best on the outside, it will help calm your nerves on the inside. Spritz on some perfume, brush your teeth and put on some make up. Even if you’re not a make-up person, even a little will do wonders for your look. Blush, mascara and a little gloss is all you need to enhance your appearance. Brush and style your hair, too.

2. Des Moines singles tell us all the time about how much they appreciate when their date shows they’ve put their effort in to look good. Men, especially, are visual creatures so they will absolutely notice when you’ve spent some time on yourself. Dress up more than you would normally. If you’re a jeans girl, throw those on with a cute top and heels or heeled boots. Nothing accentuates your legs more than even a kitten heel would. Plus, you’ll feel more confident as well, which will increase your chances of being your best self on the date. Wear a color like red, a rich blue or hot pink (if that suits your complexion). Men are visually attracted to colors, and you want to appeal to your audience.

3. Make eye contact and smile throughout the date. Don’t sit back with your arms folded in front of you – this displays being closed off and uninterested. When you first greet each other, offer a hug or at least a firm handshake. Be appreciative and grateful vocally when he picks up the check. Ask questions and show active interest. Listen, and make sure your conversation is an equal back and forth. Des Moines matchmakers know that men really respond well to gratitude. Also, allow him to be chivalrous; open your door, pay the check and walk you to your car.

4. Our male clients at Midwest Matchmaking have shared with us that a little flirtation goes a long way, if you’re interested in expressing your interest, that is. If you’re into the guy, make sure you make that known. Touch his arm across the table lightly if he says something you connect with. Now, if you feel more comfortable waiting until you know him a bit better, that’s fine. But even just touching his hand and saying, “Hey, thanks so much for the drinks” will go far.

5. Des Moines singles who are looking for a serious commitment will be watchful of how responsive you are to their communication. So, if you’re interested in him but then take 3 days to respond to his simple text message, he’s going to feel ignored, unimportant, and lose interest. So make sure you are being responsive, and if you do take some time to get back to him, explain that you’ve been busy but are glad to hear from him.

Is your Des Moines singles experience a less than situation?

If so, call your Des Moines matchmakers at (515) 414-3536 today, and let us help you find the love of your life.