Month: June 2019

Despite the popularity of online dating apps and websites in today’s market, Midwest Matchmaking has found that professional matchmaking is actually more popular than ever before. Clients all over the U.S. are handing things over to professionals in this industry at a surprising rate, and it only means that our Omaha singles are more serious about finding a relationship than ever before. 

Every matchmaker has a slightly different approach when it comes to finding the “ideal” match to set a client up with. But here, Midwest Matchmaking explains our unique approach in putting together the most compatible couples and creating a love that lasts a lifetime.

Omaha singles, read ahead to find out why you should get off dating apps and into our office, pronto!

#1. Our Omaha matchmakers prioritize those couples who want marriage and children in the long term. Depending on someone’s age and past relationships, some people may seek out a long term relationship but not necessarily want marriage. Others feel that if marriage is not the end goal at some point, they aren’t interested in getting serious with someone. If one person is a “maybe” on kids and the other is a “definite yes” then that also can pose a problem in terms of long term comparability.

#2. Who we are now is not who we will be in the future (we hope), so you need to prioritize!  What are your personal and professional goals? Where do you want to live, what lifestyle would you like to afford, and, perhaps most important, who do you want to be? When you tie this all together, does your love interest have similar priorities? You don’t have to be in the same lane, but are you swimming the same direction?

#3. First and foremost, our matchmakers are always looking at spiritual compatibility. This is the core foundation for lasting partnership and truly the only way two individuals can feel deep connection. When you click in this way, you also have a higher satisfaction rate and sense of purpose. At the core, we are each spiritual beings and so unless our relationships are connected at that level, we will not experience deep satisfaction.

#4. Our local matchmakers find that opposites often do attract when it comes to things like personality. When one partner is outgoing, they oftentimes click better with someone less so. Also, when one person is easier to get along with, they tend to work better with more challenging types. Clients do need to be compatible when it comes to values, spirituality and preference for children – those are often deal breakers. Outside of values, physical preferences, and interests, we prioritize the specific person’s relationship needs. If a man is not ready for marriage or a family, we avoid pairing him with a woman whose goals are just that. Important values are aspects such as education, work/life balance, health, and  social relationships. If the lifestyle values line up, mostly everything else can be situational or negotiable. For example, if you were hoping your match could also be a tennis partner, look for someone who values physical exercise and trying new things, or curiosity. Our Midwest Matchmaking clients are very busy but will always make time for whatever they value most. When these values are compatible, the couple will be able to enjoy their personal time together. 

#5. Your desires for children (or not) would be the one area of compatibility that’s the most important because this goes back to lifestyle. When it comes to children, that can be a deal breaker. So, whether to have them or not have them, or date someone with them, and so forth is really a big issue. Make sure you really dig deeply and know what it is you want in this area.

What Midwest Matchmaking knows more than anything is that the heart knows what it wants. So do our Omaha singles. We see couples fall in love all the time who seem to be different in every way. 

If you’re in the market for THE relationship, Midwest Matchmaking recommends being realistic about whether your vision for the future includes a serious relationship. If it does, our professional, seasoned team of local matchmakers will guide you through each step of the way. www.midwestmatchmaking.com 

Midwest Matchmaking has a pretty simple solution to the thousands of single Omaha women who hire us seeking assistance being more successful in dating: own up to the fact that your sucky dating life is your own responsibility. If you always pick the bad boys, or know you come across as closed off on dates, then we’ve already gotten past the hardest part – self-awareness and ownership of the problem. When clients are able to do that, it makes dating in Omaha a whole lot easier with our help.

Our local Omaha matchmakers empathize with you though. We were all single once, too! We know how discerning the dating market can be, and how frustrating it is to go on one first date after another with no results. The good news though, is that these are all workable issues. If dating in Omaha scares the living bejesus out of you, keep reading to make sure you’re NOT exuding the following three traits. Avoid these, and you won’t suck at dating much longer.

Below, Midwest Matchmaking reveals 3 steps that our local Omaha matchmakers guarantee will help you become more noticed by single men.

Reassess your standards.

Our clients aren’t wrong when they give us their criteria in a partner. Every one has their own priorities in life, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having a checklist. But let me ask you something: Would you rather be alone, waiting for someone to check all of the “boxes”? Or would you rather be in a loving and healthy relationship that gives you emotional support and satisfaction every day of your life, where you can grow together? So, instead of focusing on how much they make, what color their eyes are or where they live, you should be prioritizing the following: communication skills, temperament, life goals and general overall mental health and attitude about life. 

Check your attitude.

This might be a shocker, but your dating attitude is going to determine your success. You have to go into each date believing that it’s going to work and that you’re going to find someone who you really connect with. When you think positively about dating, you’re happier on dates, you’re less likely to beat yourself up after a bad date and less likely to give up. All of these will help you get the frog kissing out of the way quickly so that you’re still on Tinder when the Prince is swiping right on you. Giving up and getting discouraged is a huge reason why you probably suck at dating. 

Stop overthinking Every. Little. Thing.

 We understand that despite a little logic, dating is always going to be an emotionally charged process. So, before you start analyzing his job, his goals or what he commented on politically on your last date, you need to pay attention to how he makes you feel. Does he make you laugh? Do you guys have fun together? Does he make you feel loved and safe? On the flip side of that, does he make you feel insecure? Do you find yourself acting differently (not yourself) around him? Does he mostly annoy you? Do you wish he would do A-Z differently? Paying attention to how you feel around him is a key factor in knowing what the rest of your relationship is going to feel like. You’re going to feel those same feelings forever so make sure they’re mostly positive emotions. 

There you have it! Midwest Matchmaking’s 3 tips for single Omaha women to knock their dates out of the water, straight from your local Omaha matchmakers.

If you are a single woman in Omaha who sucks at dating, visit us at MidwestMatchmaking.com and our team of professional matchmakers will help you bring your “A game” to the next date. 

Midwest Matchmaking has a pretty simple solution to the thousands of single men in Omaha who come to us looking for help being more successful in dating: Confidence. A confident man lands dates and conducts them with authority. An insecure man seems to whisper, “Just ignore me—I’m nothing special.”

Our Omaha matchmakers firmly believe that very man has the choice to be either type of personality, and we highly recommend the former if you’re wanting to up your game and do better with local singles. Learning confidence will allow you to project the assets you possess—competence, income, ambition—that these women can’t see.

The signals you are radiating can be subtle and subconscious, so you may not be at all aware that you come across that way; but the good news is that even if you don’t naturally exude “alpha” qualities, a rapidly growing body of research is revealing how you can trick yourself into feeling on top of the dating world.

Below, Midwest Matchmaking reveals 3 steps that our Omaha matchmakers guarantee will help you get more noticed by local singles.

#1: Dress to impress

Men lacking confidence play it safe (or boring) with their wardrobe, and that’s a one-way ticket to mediocrity, so dress one notch above the other guys. Clothes that verge on the formal side — like sporting a suit for a casual date — will get you noticed. Attire is also associated with power, and since power is linked to leadership and confidence, dressing up can instill those same traits in you. Don’t forget the small touches either, like adding cufflinks, a pocket square or a spritz of cologne. Showing women you know how to take care of yourself is extremely attractive, since no one wants to play mommy to a grown man.

#2: Make your body language speak for you

Even the world’s nicest outfit won’t conceal the signals your body is sending, so make sure you are assuming a confident posture! When standing or walking, keep your shoulders back and chin slightly up. Face others directly; keep your arms open and expressive. When sitting, crossing your legs with one ankle atop the opposing thigh can make you feel (and look) more powerful. Make sure you gesture when speaking, but be aware of pointing, as that can come off as aggressive. Avoid fidgeting or touching your face, especially your lips or mouth, which suggests you’re unsure about what you’re saying or being dishonest. Don’t put any items directly in front of you on the table on a date. This suggests you’re setting up a barrier because you’re anxious. Finally, perfect your handshake and make sure it’s firm. It’s also important to extend your hand vertically—not palm up or down, which can be interpreted as submissive or dominant.

Step 3: Speak with Confidence

Specific words, and the way you say them, signal confidence. Use these cues to make your subtitles scream that you’re a winner. Feeling nervous pre-date? Give yourself a motivational, positive pep talk! Thinking about your strengths and speaking to yourself using positive words can make formidable challenges seem less daunting. When on the date, starting a statement with a disclaimer is a turn-off. Examples: “Maybe you already thought of this, but. . .” or “I know this is obvious, but. . .” You might as well begin with “I’m totally inept, so just tune me out.” Also, the more quickly and clearly you respond to questions your date asks, the more confident you will appear. Also, don’t over apologize. Obviously, if you make a mistake like showing up late, asking the same question twice, etc., own it, but make it quick, say it confidently, and then—move on. Nothing looks more pathetic than a man who apologizes endlessly.

There you have it! Midwest Matchmaking’s 3 tips for men to knock their dates out of the water, straight from your Omaha matchmakers.

If you are a single man in Omaha who sucks at dating, visit us at www.midwestmatchmaking.com and our team of professional matchmakers will help you bring your A Game to the next date.