3 Successful Tips for Dating a Busy Person09 Oct 2018
If you have been dating in the Midwest for a while and have encountered those Iowa singles who are always on the go, focused on their careers or traveled often for work, you know that making the time to meet them for a drink was nearly impossible. This, of course, is something we see often with Midwest Matchmaking clients: they seek a local matchmaking service, go through the arduous process of hiring us, and they have limited availability for us to arrange their dates. And, a lot of times, this frustrates their dates, who are eagerly waiting to meet them – either for a first date, or anxiously awaiting that 2nd or 3rd.
Before you discount meeting these busybodies, take these aspects into consideration: When the economy tanked, the job market became unbelievably competitive. It caused a lot of people to shift their priorities and the mindset became to find a job, keep a job or become an entrepreneur. Though love has taken a backseat to employment and financial security, the need to find love is still there and there millions of professional singles in the Midwest who are looking for their perfect match. Which is why they hired Midwest Matchmaking in the first place
Timing is everything, especially dating in the Midwest, where traditionally, the work ethic is strong; and it takes a lot of patience and understanding to date a career-minded single. It’s definitely not for the needy or insecure and it takes a lot of work for both parties to build and nurture a romantic relationship. Although it’s a lot of work, it can be well worth your time if you see something special within that person. And, look at the bright side, you’re dating someone who is local, successful and ambitious! It’s certainly better than the alternative, for some. As matchmakers in the Midwest, we actually hear all the time that our clients want someone driven, not lazy, a go-getter, and who has the means to enjoy life with them. You sure wouldn’t get that level of a drive from someone who is stationary in life. You take the good with the bad, in this case.
If you are a busy professional, dating another busy professional or at least considering it, here are Midwest Matchmaking’s top tips on how to make the most of your time together and make it work for you. This article on using the Law of Attraction in dating is another good resource, written by one of our own!
1. Use Technology
Dating singles in the Midwest who are constantly on the go can be hard. Thanks to cell phones and video chats though, now you have almost every tool in your tech arsenal to bridge the gap and spend more time with your date, even if it’s over a screen. Text messages, pictures, video chat, instant message are all viable means of staying bridging connected and building on that chemistry. Chances are, they are already using these tools for work, so getting them to engage shouldn’t be that difficult if they are considering making it work with you.
Don’t underestimate the power of a phone call. Even if they can only chat for a short while, or if you have to leave a voicemail, hearing your voice can still put a smile on their face. At least you are making an effort and if the action is returned, you know that they making an effort with you.
2. Make The Most of Your Time Together and Start-Off Casual
For the early stages of dating through Midwest Matchmaking, scheduling will be key, and we will do that part for you anyway (the first and second dates, that is). Sometimes, you will have work to find ways to be more efficient with the time you do have available. The busy person has a clear understanding of the value of time so when you do have time together, focus on having fun and enjoying each other’s company.
Also make it a point to create exciting and memorable moments The more intimate, the better because this is the time you can use to nurture the relationship that is forming. Not every date has to be extravagant and over the top. Simplicity can be bliss for someone who deals with high-pressure work environments. By now you should have an idea of some things that make him or her tick. Use it to your advantage and they will appreciate it. And, you can always ask your Midwest matchmaker for advice. We’re here to help!
Take your time to feel the person out. Go on a number of coffee or lunch dates in your area and get to know the person. Focus on the conversation and see if you can understand their lifestyle of a busy single. Find ways in which you can relate to each other and make a connection. This will also give you an idea as to how busy your date really is and how open he or she really is to a relationship should the feelings develop.
Sometimes people will say they are busy, but as matchmakers in the Midwest, we sometimes hear that really, they are using it as an excuse to cover the fact that they are either afraid of commitment, looking for booty calls rather than a relationship or simply not that into you.
Measure the level of exchange. Just because your local dates are more casual in nature doesn’t mean that there shouldn’t be a healthy level of give and take. After a few dates and conversations, you should have a better understanding as to if there is a genuine interest to connect on a romantic level versus a busy schedule being a symptom of reluctance. At that point, make a decision and see if this is something you want to explore.
3. Be Realistic
Should you decide to explore the relationship you want, make sure you have a realistic expectation when you get started. Matchmakers in your area are pros at being honest to our clients about what their expectations should be. If both parties are on the same page about moving forward, you need to make sure all expectations are laid out on the table and discussed. Make sure you communicate your needs and you listen to theirs.
Also, make sure you honest about your comfort level. If your date is only available to see you on the weekends or is out of town on business for two weeks out of the month, are you going to be OK with that? Certain aspects of his or her career are not going to change anytime soon and you have to make sure you are prepared. If not, you may have to accept that this just isn’t the right time to try to start a relationship with this person, and move on. There are plenty of singles in the Midwest – go fishing for some, or let Midwest Matchmaking help with that.
All in all, if there is a genuine connection with someone, don’t let their busy lifestyles intimidate you. Be confident! Show them you can handle it (or are willing to try). At least give it a shot. Busy people need love, too.