Midwest Matchmaking’s 5 Women Men Should Avoid

25 Feb 2019

Midwest Matchmaking is in the business of relationships. Our Kansas City Matchmakers see which ones come and go, which ones have staying power, and which ones are doomed from the start.

We see oftentimes that many Midwest singles are attracted to the wrong people. Some women are attracted to “bad boys,” and at times men are attracted to the women who can be bad for them, as well. As serious a commitment as marriage is, some people choose to ignore the red flags and stay blinded by lust or convenience.

Men, if you’re looking to settle down with an emotionally healthy and mature woman who is secure in herself and will make a great partner, read below for the red flags our Kansas City matchmakers have made note of. And, if you’re already dating her, then run!

With that in mind, the following are Midwest Matchmaking’s 5 women that you should definitely not marry…or date, for that matter: 

Dating The Damsel in Distress

A lot of men love feeling like a superhero and rescuing someone who needs it, but you must ask yourself, “Why is she always attracting drama in her life?” You feel pity for her, and this tugs at your heartstrings. She is incapable of pulling herself up by her bootstraps. Just remember, if you rescue a damsel in distress, you end up with nothing more than a distressed damsel. Have you considered what will happen if you need someone to rely on? Chances are very high that she only knows how to be taken care of, not the other way around. The only thing that should need rescuing are children or furry creatures from the Humane Society. 

The Psycho Girlfriend

The psycho: These women are often beautiful. Sometimes supermodel gorgeous, and you are pinching yourself that she is dating you! You are easily blinded by her beauty, though.  She has anger outbursts, unpredictable moods, one minute wants a hug and the next is biting your head off. She may have an actual personality disorder (borderline? narcissistic?) and zero insight about her behavior.  She may even say she has “bad PMS,” but do not buy that excuse! You deserve someone who is stable and in control of her emotions. Relationships hit enough bumps in the road – you don’t need someone who is creating drama daily for no reason.

Dating The Control Freak

She’s domineering and bossy. She makes all the decisions and beats you down when you try to assert yourself. She decides where you go on dates and who you go with. She may be isolating you from your regular friends. You are starting to become her lap dog. You may even begin to wonder if it matters that you exist in the relationship, as you have no voice. Your friends are definitely noticing. They are losing respect for you and see you as spineless.  It is time to take back your self-respect and leave her.

Dating The Co-Dependent One

She is a bottomless well of needs and ultra clingy. You must constantly reassure her of your love, and that everything in the relationship is okay. She wanted to get married from date three and believes you are her “soulmate.”  If you call and don’t answer or respond to texts instantly, she is in a panic. Forget about any “boy’s night out.” Your phone will be blowing up all evening. There is no way for you ever to make this person feel secure and you may die trying to.   

Dating A Liar

This woman just can’t be trusted – she breaks promises, doesn’t follow through, flakes out on important occasions, and has a poor relationship track record. Perhaps even her friends have warned you about getting involved with her (probably passive aggressively by “joking” about it). If these aren’t red flags enough, maybe you need some therapy also.

Midwest Matchmaking Can Help You Find the Right Kansas City Single

If you are dating any of these above personality types, it is crucial that you consider the impact this person is having on your life. These types can be disastrous for your well-being and happiness. Would you want this woman raising your children?  Chances are, your gut is telling you to run, but you are getting something out of the relationship that makes this difficult. You must move on from women like this and find a healthy, balanced partnership for life.

Call Midwest Matchmaking and have one of our Kansas City Matchmakers help you find someone special. 

Midwest Matchmaking has been helping Midwest singles find love for over a decade. Learn more at MidwestMatchmaking.com.